Does Trauma Healing Destroy Marriages?
“I finally decided I was ready to address my trauma. But then I read an article about how it adversely affects marriages. So, I guess I either live with the trauma… or destroy my marriage?” I understood my client’s deep concern. She was right. But the truth is out. We all become a version of […]
Trauma Healing Isn’t a Cake Walk … But It’s So Worth It
“I remember when I had my knee surgery and they told me the recovery wouldn’t be that bad. They lied! So… give it to me straight up. How bad is the recovery from this trauma stuff going to be once I get into it?” If you’ve been wondering the same thing — you’re not […]
Trauma Doesn’t Just Wound Your Heart … It Imprisons Your Body
“Eleven years younger? Did you ever see the movie When Harry Met Sally? … Well, I’ll have what you’re having!” That was just one of the dozens of emails and messages I received in response to an email I sent out. The email had the subject line: “11 Years Younger…” In it, I explained that I’d recently completed […]
Do I Have What It Takes to Be a Trauma Coach?
“I don’t just want to be a trauma coach. I want to transform lives and reinstall hope in trauma survivors. Do I have what it takes?” The young woman’s voice was sincere. Hopeful. Yet terrified. I receive calls like this all the time. And I take every one of them seriously. […]
Proximity With Yourself: Do You Feed Your Brain Power or Poison?
“Garbage in… garbage out.” My client laughed and rolled his eyes as he said it. “My wife tells me that’s why I’m negative all the time. She says that’s why I have no energy, no motivation, why I’m unproductive. She says I think about, listen to, and watch all the wrong stuff. That’s the garbage […]
Proximity Begins at Home
“I’ve been reading what you’re writing about proximity.” Then she whispered, almost as if her family could hear. “I’m fairly sure it’s poison in our home. Laden with landmines and covered in eggshells.” I could hear the exhaustion and despair in her voice. And the tear that escaped her eye confirmed my thoughts. It […]
The People Who Make Proximity Power Instead of Poison
“I’m a bit concerned that proximity could be the poison in my life. I’m not judging. But a lot of the people around me are negative, stagnant, and stuck. Can you help me with who I should be looking for?” I paused for a moment before answering. Because that question deserves honesty — more than […]
Who You Spend Time with Is Who You Become
“You’ve shared the importance of raising my standards. But it’s SO HARD when the people I spend time with are comfortable with mediocrity and settling for the next irresponsible choice in front of them.” I sat with that for a moment. Because? He wasn’t wrong. He wasn’t being negative or unkind. He was telling the […]
The Wonder of Giving Your Healing Away: When Healing Stops Being Survival… and Starts Becoming Life
“I finally feel alive again.” That may seem like a benign statement. But when I hear it from my clients … I know what’s happening. It’s the opening statement of a life transformed. Getting ready to emerge. Under the spotlight and inertia of their calling and destiny. They aren’t just calmer. Or just more stable. […]
The 7th Step in Trauma Healing That Most People Never Take (And Why It Changes Everything)
“It’s like that last step is where the magic starts. And I’d never heard of it before. I have a master’s degree in social work. How did I miss it?!” my new client asked. I encouraged her, “I doubt that you missed it! More likely that you never heard of it. I have 5 earned […]
