The Healing That Multiplies: How Giving Away What You’ve Gained Changes Everything
“Here I am … still broken, and you want me to share the little bit of healing I’ve experienced?” a client asked me from a place of what she thought was depletion. Later, she thanked me for “pushing her out of the nest”. No, I didn’t push her out of her healing process. […]
How Trauma Moved My Life to A Place of Fulfillment
“Someone should write your story,” a renowned and very creative songwriter told me a few years ago. I remember looking at him and saying, “There’s not much to my story … Just a scared little girl who’s passionate about helping others heal.” “But you make it look so easy… And people would have even more […]
Three Areas Trauma Hijacks: Body, Mind, and Connection Let’s Take Them Back!
“Will I ever get totally free of trauma? Seems like I get one thing handled and something else pops up … Like I’m playing whack-a-mole with trauma,” my client asked with urgency. I could see he was weary. I assured him. “I’ve found that when people address 3 critical areas of life that trauma hijacks, […]
Repurposing Trauma: Turning What Broke You Into What Builds You
“Is it true that it takes 2 to 5 years to heal from all this trauma? I didn’t sign up to be in therapy that long!” my client moaned. Rightfully so! I assured him, “Although doing it one-hour at a time takes longer, it shouldn’t take 2 to 5 years!” My belief is that workshops […]
Love After Trauma Healing Is Different … But It Can Be Better
“It’s like everything is changing! That’s not a complaint. But it’s like we’re having to learn to do everything in a different way. Are we on the right track?” My clients were sincere in their question … and they were right on! Love after trauma is different. It’s kinda like the first relationship is mostly […]
The Body Does Keep the Score … But So Does Love After Trauma
“Why has it been so hard for me to love? I had no idea it wasn’t some kind of loaded gun … That I was pushing away … Or that it could be such a wonderful thing!” my client confessed after he and his wife had practiced all week. If you missed the healing […]
When Love Hurts: How Trauma Affects Our Ability to Love — and How to Heal It
“I just don’t know if I will ever ‘get’ this thing about love. I even googled to see if there was a ‘Love for Dummies’ edition. I really need help with this …” my client said in a tone practically begging for help. Love. What a “hot” topic. We talk about it more than […]
Do Love & Trauma Go Together Like Oil & Vinegar?
“I don’t think I even know what love is! That’s my conclusion after watching the video you asked my wife and I to watch …” my client said with a mixture of shame and confusion. I had to laugh, as I thought of how many songs too have been filled with the same question … […]
Healing Resentment: The Hard Science & Gentle Grace of Letting Go
“I know you warned me about the letters from my wife and my son … and that I could read them … but that was not the purpose. That it was to reach others who weren’t ready to own that their resentments were holding their families prisoner,” my client almost whispered. I nodded with empathy, […]
Resentment’s Collateral Damage: When Your Pain Becomes Everyone’s Prison
“He doesn’t call it resentment he just calls it ‘coming to terms with a sh*tty past’!” my client’s wife commented when she came in. You may not call it resentment. You might call it… Frustration… Disappointment… Righteous anger… Having boundaries. I don’t care what you call it. I just care that you free yourself […]