Proximity With Yourself: Do You Feed Your Brain Power or Poison?
“Garbage in… garbage out.” My client laughed and rolled his eyes as he said it. “My wife tells me that’s why I’m negative all the time. She says that’s why I have no energy, no motivation, why I’m unproductive. She says I think about, listen to, and watch all the wrong stuff. That’s the garbage […]
Proximity Begins at Home
“I’ve been reading what you’re writing about proximity.” Then she whispered, almost as if her family could hear. “I’m fairly sure it’s poison in our home. Laden with landmines and covered in eggshells.” I could hear the exhaustion and despair in her voice. And the tear that escaped her eye confirmed my thoughts. It […]
The People Who Make Proximity Power Instead of Poison
“I’m a bit concerned that proximity could be the poison in my life. I’m not judging. But a lot of the people around me are negative, stagnant, and stuck. Can you help me with who I should be looking for?” I paused for a moment before answering. Because that question deserves honesty — more than […]
Who You Spend Time with Is Who You Become
“You’ve shared the importance of raising my standards. But it’s SO HARD when the people I spend time with are comfortable with mediocrity and settling for the next irresponsible choice in front of them.” I sat with that for a moment. Because? He wasn’t wrong. He wasn’t being negative or unkind. He was telling the […]
The Wonder of Giving Your Healing Away: When Healing Stops Being Survival… and Starts Becoming Life
“I finally feel alive again.” That may seem like a benign statement. But when I hear it from my clients … I know what’s happening. It’s the opening statement of a life transformed. Getting ready to emerge. Under the spotlight and inertia of their calling and destiny. They aren’t just calmer. Or just more stable. […]
The 7th Step in Trauma Healing That Most People Never Take (And Why It Changes Everything)
“It’s like that last step is where the magic starts. And I’d never heard of it before. I have a master’s degree in social work. How did I miss it?!” my new client asked. I encouraged her, “I doubt that you missed it! More likely that you never heard of it. I have 5 earned […]
Trauma Healing Was Never Meant to End Without Purpose
“Sometimes I feel like getting into trauma healing opened Pandora’s box and there’s no end to what’s going to pour out of it!” I nodded with understanding. And great compassion. It takes so much courage to step into trauma healing … and to feel like it will never end shouldn’t be something we struggle with. […]
No Wonder People Are in Trauma Healing for Years: The 6 Steps of Trauma Healing (Part 1)
“I guess I wasn’t stuck in the healing loop … I had been in some kind of loop, but I’d never even heard any of these steps or done any of the healing you laid out in that workshop!” After last week’s blog, I received a lot of messages similar to …that one. […]
Why Most People Stay Stuck (and How to Finally Move Forward)
“I’ve been reading your blog for years! I guess I’m one of those who read to get more informed … but didn’t DO (what you wrote about) to get myself out of this cycle,” my client wrote. “I don’t know what took me so long, but I’m ready to give my healing away … to […]
The Healing That Multiplies: How Giving Away What You’ve Gained Changes Everything
“Here I am … still broken, and you want me to share the little bit of healing I’ve experienced?” a client asked me from a place of what she thought was depletion. Later, she thanked me for “pushing her out of the nest”. No, I didn’t push her out of her healing process. […]