Coming Together to Tackle & Throw Emotional Abuse OUT of Your Relationship
“I know he still needs to continue addressing his trauma. But I promise you … the man who sleeps in my bed is a man I’ve never known. Even in his best moments!” The wife of the couple I’d been working with was beaming. Her eyes were sparkling, her energy levels were vastly improved, her […]
Using RoundUp on Roots that Lead to Treat Others with Less Kindness & Respect Than You Desire or They Deserve
“For some reason, I feel more nervous about this ‘surgery process’ than I did about my shoulder replacement.” I could see my client was indeed nervous about beginning to address the things we identified as his roots that led to him becoming emotionally and verbally abusive. I will continue to share their story (with their […]
Sharing My Heart With Those Who Have Been Less Loving & Kind Than You Wish You’d Been
“I didn’t intend to be emotionally abusive, and to be honest, I’m not sure that what I’ve done was actually emotional abuse. At least I hope it isn’t …” He was only there because his wife was ready to file for divorce. He only knew because he opened her credit card statement and […]
Hope for Marriage Where the Emotional Abuse Is Denied
Is there any hope for my marriage if my husband (or wife) doesn’t believe they are emotionally abusive? I received texts and direct messages like this all week long. Those of you who know me are aware … I have GREAT faith … that ANYTHING great is possible. However, I also want to be honest […]
Fixing Patterns of Emotional / Verbal Abuse YES! Healing Is Necessary!
“We’ve been following along with your process about fixing what’s been broken. But what if it’s not an event, but ongoing emotional verbal abuse?” I received this direct message, and as I always do … sent a response. But something in me felt like I needed to be a bit more specific. So, […]
Three Core Traits We Should All Seek to Become that Override Any and All Trauma Programming
“Back in early December, my daughter told me that all she wanted from me for Christmas this year was for me to attend your ‘Designing an Extraordinary Year’ Workshop. I only did it for her, but something started churning in me as I watched the recordings!” my client said. I nodded with interest and curiosity. […]
Let Courage Arise … To “Fix” What You’ve “Broken”!
I know I’ve been a very difficult client, and I’m ready to do whatever it takes!” my client blurted out in his opening comments. To be honest with you, I’m not sure which of us was more surprised to hear those words come out of his mouth! Although I’m not 100% sure what brought him […]
3 More Steps to Fix What You’ve Broken
It was 10 times harder than I thought, but it was worth every bit of effort that I put into it!” my client reported after he did the first 3 steps with his wife. I nodded, empathetically, knowing that it’s indeed hard. Then I asked him: “What about it made it difficult?” He processed for […]
AN EXTRAORDINARY YEAR!
It was 1978, and I was still naïve and green behind the ears. But there was just something different that year. It was the first time in my life that I dared to shoot for extraordinary. I didn’t even know what extraordinary really meant… But I was determined to find out if it was real. […]
How ONE WORD Can Change Your Destiny
It was on the Sunday before Christmas that the youth director told us to consider who we wanted to be in the coming year. I was a shy and naïve teenager, and couldn’t who or what I wanted to be. But against all odds, I went ahead and wrote the three words on the paper […]